I'm deeply committed to fighting ableism, I'm autistic and have other mental health disabilities that are a huge part of my life, but I might sometimes slip up and use ableist words precisely because I'm autistic and have a bit of a language disability because of that and it can be really hard for me to pick out individual words from my vocabulary and remove them. It's a catch-22 I've seen a lot, words being ableist, but expecting people with language disabilities to be able to communicate in a certain way and use words very precisely and deliberately also being ableist. Not always sure how to resolve this. It's complicated. In my own spaces I try to give a lot more weight to what people mean, rather than what particular words people use.

I'm not sure if this makes us incompatible. You seem cool but we might have competing access needs.