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Date: 2016-03-08 01:20 am (UTC)
Thank you for this, I have been struggling with this lately with people being upset with my partner for 'enabling' the toxic behaviours of his other partner. I have been really bad with enabling myself in the past, so I have compassion for him and how it is hard to see, especially because you are treating a toxic/abusive person the way you would anyone else you care about; the problem is they are the ones not reacting like a healthier person might and know how to perpetuate it to keep you doing what they want. I mean, that is how abuse/manipulation works.

It's strange to me that these same people can have compassion for me when I am enabling people who are bad for me, but when it comes to my partner he should just 'know' better. You can work on recognizing it, but even the most savvy people can be forced into enabling. Often it doesn't give one much of a choice, that's WHY it's abuse/manipulation/toxic.
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