I think about this working at a library. It's a space where everyone should be welcome and I try to greet and smile all people equally. I also work at a school and try to make the children feel seen, learn their names and say hello. In that setting, where kids sometimes break rules and drive me up the wall, I also try to be aware of who I am remprimanding and in what way, because we are socialized to treat people differently based on gender and race. It's sad.

I've heard from other people that short or queer haircuts have brought compliments from black women and negative treatment from white women.