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Expect to find curse words, nudity, (occasionally explicit) talk of sex, and angry ranting, but NEVER slurs or sexually violent language. I use TW when I am aware of the need and on request.

Date: 2016-02-18 05:21 am (UTC)
(I really hope none of this comes across as offensive - I want to preface this by saying that I'm not well educated about social justice. I'm trying to learn, but admittedly I'm not spending much time on it. =S This is mostly just me thinking aloud and explaining how you've helped me. If you have any corrections for me please go ahead and tell me.)

Honestly, reading your journal the past few months has made a pretty huge difference to me, and it's making me try to change my habits for the better. The first time I heard of social justice was maybe four-ish years ago, from a person I knew in high school. This person is trans (totally fine) and got way deep into SJ stuff on tumblr. She introduced me to it. And I freaking hated it. I could go on forever about what a cruel person she was, but basically she just craved being superior to others, and SJW gave her the tools she needed. She legitimately believed trans people were of greater value than cis people, among other things. It was the only experience I ever had with SJW stuff and it left an awful taste in my mouth.

(This really upsets me. I should have been better than that. I was young then, I was 19 when I was still talking to her, but looking back I feel really bad that I discounted ALL of SJ based on one shitty experience with a person. Sure she used a lot of SJW terms and whatever to put herself on a pedestal, but she talked about legit things like slurs and I completely rejected it. No cool, past me, not cool.)

Anyways, it took me a long time to start commenting on your journal mostly because I felt a little intimidated by the SJW stuff, but after reading it for a few months now I've really changed my mind about SJ. I'm working on eliminating slurs from my speech. I avoided the ones most people know about like ret***, gay (in inappropriate contexts), etc. But I've come to realize that words like stu*** and idi** and the like are also slurs. I'm also trying to stop using God and Jesus in vain. I'm absolutely not Christian, but I don't want to disrespect people who are. Bi***, sl*t, and the like I'm really on the fence about. They don't offend me personally if they're not meant in a venomous way. A lot of people seem to find great value in reclaiming them. But a lot of people hate hearing them, ever. To be on the safe side I'm trying to stay away from them, but I honestly don't know.

And then of course you recently described your relationship with Topaz and it kind of blew my mind, since I really had no idea other people had that kind of relationship and that it worked.

I'm super short on sleep and half of that probably didn't make any sense, but whatever. I hope I didn't get anything horribly wrong. You've made a difference to me and you're inspiring me to do better. :) Thank you.
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